Having a baby is one of life’s most wonderful experiences, and indeed for many parents, it is probably also singularly, the most wonderful life changing moment in their lives together as a couple. The traditional confinement month, that is, the first 4 weeks, or 28 days that the parents and baby spend together is indeed an important foundation that allows parents and baby to bond and adjust to their new lives together. Many parents rely on the age-old wisdom of their own parents as well as parenting and baby “experts” like confinement nannies and midwives. We are pleased to share with you today, the stories of two new mummies, Adelin W. and L.C. Yeo on how their confinement journeys. Adelin had her mum help her with her confinement month, and L.C. relied on the services of an experienced confinement nanny.
They say no two pregnancies are the same. I could not agree more.
I never really paid much attention to pregnant women before – perhaps because it was more of a mystery to me since some women seem to handle it really well while others have it really rough. Or it could have been because I had no real need to understand what they go through… up until now... Well, it’s been more than four months into my journey and I have a newfound and heartfelt respect for every woman who has ever been pregnant!
Preparing for pregnancy is a highly personalized journey that involves navigating a labyrinth of information and perceptions (from old wive’s tales to modern myths) before making some key decisions. Well, I’ve penned my perspective of being pregnant here and I hope this will offer some useful information to mommies out there.
"Oh wow! Congratulations! You are expecting!"
These sweet words are the start of a nine-month flurry of activities, from setting up baby’s new room, telling the family the good news, deciding on the baby shower, finding out how to eat well during pregnancy, if you should sign up to baby Mozart classes, and perhaps even pregnancy yoga, breathing classes, reading books about parenting, and names, what name should you be calling baby, oh, wait, you don’t even know the baby’s gender yet. And what about the delivery? Where should you deliver, in a traditional hospital, or how about an all natural water birth, should you stick to your current gynae? So many things to do and so little time!
"Baby Abby wants to see Aunty Joyce" The text sure got me out of my after-lunch food-comatose state even though lunch was quite a few hours ago. The sender of the text was from a very dear friend Jennifer whom I have known for many years. I wrapped up what I was doing and excitedly made my way to the hospital to visit Jennifer and Baby Abby.
Just as I entered her room, I was greeted by the soft gentle wail of a baby, with Jennifer covered in long-sleeve pajamas, and a confinement lady in attendance. I opened my arms to give Jennifer a big hug and propped myself comfortably on the couch, waiting for Abby to be brought to me by the confinement lady after Jennifer nurses her. Newborn babies look so delicate and adorable.
For an expectant dad, pregnancy can be both wonderful and terrifying. As much as he’s excited on the prospect of being a father, he’s also worried on how he’ll be taking care of both his heavily pregnant wife and unborn child. In fact, many dads-to-be might find themselves a little overwhelmed on what to do during the different stages of pregnancy, and how they can face the challenges.
Does this sound familiar? Not to worry. Here’s a guide on the different stages of pregnancy that you can learn from and better prepare yourself for a support role as an expectant dad.
Congratulations on your pregnancy! Your mind is definitely whirling with all sorts of thoughts, especially ones that revolve around the welfare of your newborn and managing your own health. However, put yourself at ease as there are plenty of options that are available for newly pregnant mothers to try out, from education courses to booking a nanny in Singapore!