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Why is it important to offer 15 minutes of undivided attention to your kid every day?

[fa icon="calendar"] Jul 15, 2020 10:51:19 AM / by Eblity

Have you ever felt bad for saying no to your kid from doing the things he or she likes but it’s not good for him or her? Well you shouldn’t, because you are just being a responsible parent by doing that. But wait, have you been responsible enough to give the required amount of positive attention along with the negative consequences for wrong doings? If not, then it’s time to change! A daily dose of ‘time in’ can significantly reduce the need for ‘time out’, when you want to parent your kid the right way.

Parenting is a 24 x 7 job, and undoubtedly a parent needs to be attentive all the time, but at least for 15 minutes in a day, parents needs to give their undivided attention to the kids. No phone, no television, no daily chores and no multitasking. It should just be you and your kid. And while you do that, here’s a checklist for you to follow:

As a parent, make an effort to spend at least 15 minutes with your child everyday.

1. Stop asking, start listening

Stop quizzing your kid with too many questions, it might shut down their instinctive behavior and the desire to spend quality time with you. These 15 minutes that you are sparing for your child must not include questions or instructions like- which color is this? What’s 16 x 8? Will you sing a song for me? There shouldn’t be any sort of performance pressure over the kid during this time. You need to start listening to what your kid wants to say, try to get into their world, you may also try to participate in some kind of role play, just resist the urge to ask things that you want to know, and instead try listening to things they want to share. 

2. Show interest in what your child is doing

The best method to initiate positive conversation is by expressing your interest on the things that your kid is doing or has recently started doing. Talk about their experiences of joining the art class, or how has been their experience of learning through videos, or how they like spending time with their pet? Questions like these will surely be welcomed by your kid and will help in strengthening your bond with them.

Express interest in what your child is doing to strengthen your bond with them.

3. Feedback about the kind of behavior you want to encourage

This is the time for you to encourage all sorts of positive behavior that you have been observing. Express gratitude for when they helped you take care of their younger sibling, for bringing their plate to the kitchen and arranging their school bag for the next day. Make them understand how these little things help in making your life easier and how their good behavior gets appreciated. 

4. Ask follow-up questions to continue conversations

It is advisable to refrain from asking questions, but not always. Ask follow-up questions after a conversation has been initiated, like what happened next? What do you think he would have thought, when you said that? How do you manage to pull off things like that? Questions like these will not only make your kid aware about the fact that you’re interested in knowing more but will also make your kid open to more sharing in the future.

Encourage positive behavior by expressing gratitude to your children, and ask follow-up questions after a conversation.

5. Pick an activity that you like doing together

The best time to have some interesting conversation is during an activity that you both like doing, or soon after you have finished it.  Go for cycling, solve a puzzle together, have a match of an indoor game or an outdoor sport, just avoid games which involve a screen. Screen games consume too much of their attention as well as energy for them to be able to talk while playing.

Every child is special and talented. The same goes for children with special needs. With proper intervention and support, they can integrate well into society. To help them receive the required support in the long run, CaregiverAsia has launched the Extraordinary Care Program that ensures continued long-term therapy for children with integrated therapy service providers and medical escorting service with a trained caregiver, in the unfortunate event that their parents or guardians are no longer able to care for them. Do you know of a friend caring for a special needs child? Find out more about the Extraordinary Care Program below to understand how it can benefit them!

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Topics: Caring For Your Children

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